One of the most common complaints about dating apps like Tinder, according to women, is that while they may receive an endless amount of matches, the same can’t be said for actual conversations. And it’s been proven before that heterosexual men who use Tinder are more likely to ‘swipe right’ on women they find attractive, whereas women tend to be more discerning.
The result of this is that there are a bunch of people who have “matched” with other people, but that’s where it ends. Tinder has acknowledged this by trying to encourage conversation with messages like “There’s nothing wrong with sending the first message,” “Tinder can’t type for you,” and, “Say something witty!” (Competitor app Hinge also does this.)
So how can people who haven’t given up on dating apps change this, and increase their chances of meeting The One? Dr. Jess Carbino, Tinder’s in-house sociologist, has a suggestion users may not have considered.
Carbino told Business Insider that people should give their matches a reason to message them by literally asking a question in their profiles. As an example, a movie buff should write a bit about themselves and then ask, “What’s your favourite movie?” or something similar.
“A lot of individuals need to have fodder to make conversation,” she said. “It’s very difficult for people sometimes to put themselves forward and try to make that first move.”
The main takeaway? Don’t be too mysterious, and give out more details. Give your potential suitors a reason to chat to you and you may find yourself fending off conversations.
This story was first published on ELLE.com.au.